Trust and Respect

You know, trust and respect are two things that are pretty important in every relationship. Oh, and of course when I speak of relationships, I'm not just talking about the romantic ones - I'm also talking of the friendships and partnerships and relationships with your family. Trust and respect - definitely the glue that keeps things together.

I mean you've got these people in your life - your boyfriend/girlfriend, family, friends... whatever else... and they know a side of you that no other person knows. You count on them for things that you could never ask anyone else to do for you. You trust them to keep your secrets, and to keep you sane during your most insane of moments. You trust them to protect you, to always be there for you, and to never violate you. You count on them to forever be honest with you, because all in all that's all you can really ask of anybody. You never expect them to hurt you, because they know that you only trust the most select of people.

Trust, my dears, is definitely important. I mean without it... you've got nothing. You're honest with your friends and you expect them to always be honest with you - it's a two way street, and when one side fails to respect that... that's when things begin to fall apart. That's when things need to be sorted out. I mean, you expect your relationships to be full of honesty, trust and respect. How could you possibly respect someone that you don't trust or trust someone that you don't respect. How could you possibly be expected to trust someone that you feel doesn't even respect you?

You allow these people, who are suppose to be so important to you, to see the most vulnerable side of you and they continue to disrespect you with unnecessary comments and lack of understanding. You're there for them 200%, and in return you only get 75. You pray that it'll eventually get better, but you know deep down that it's not going to... and though you know it... though you know that things are never going to change... you keep holding on. You keep reaching out... you keep giving, because you love them. You care about them, and you continue to believe that perhaps eventually they'll start to realize what they're doing to you. They'll start to recognize that these things that they've been doing actually affects you. It affects your self esteem and self confidence. You hope that they'll see that instead of you reaching out to them when they're reaching out to you, you're slowly pushing them away... and though you continue to be there for them at all times during the day or night, you've stopped letting them in on your own life and problems ages ago.

Yeah... trust and respect... they go together hand in hand. Now think about it. Are you getting what you need from these people that you love and that supposedly love you? If you're not, don't you think it's about that time to just be done with it all?

I do.